In life, we’re often striving to get what we want, but the real magic happens when we learn to work with our heart. Values aren’t just abstract concepts—they’re your internal compass. When you understand and appreciate your values, they become an essential resource, helping you move toward the life you desire. But trust me, this is no “perfect journey.” I’ve been there, trying to hide parts of myself to fit an ideal image, but what I discovered is far more powerful than pretending to always have it together.
The Heart as a Center of Wisdom (and Honesty)
For the longest time, I wanted to be known for those moments when I was in flow. You know, the times when my energy levels were sky-high, and people wanted to jump on board with whatever I was selling or suggesting. I was on fire! Those were the days I felt unstoppable, and I’d think, “Why can’t I be like this all the time?” But the truth is, energy ebbs and flows, and that’s okay. I used to retreat and recharge during those lower-energy days, feeling like I needed to hide from the world.
But here’s the heart-opening truth: working with my heart helped me see that these low-energy moments are just as valuable. They aren’t something to run from but an opportunity to connect with myself—and with others—in a different, more grounded way.
Identifying Your Core Values (Without the Hiding)
When I started to connect with my heart, I discovered that my values weren’t just about drive and empowerment. They were also about authenticity, connection, and even vulnerability. The parts of me I thought I needed to hide—those low-energy, quiet, and introspective moments—turned out to be just as important. Why? Because they allowed me to communicate in a new way, one that’s intimate and grounded. High energy is great, but low energy is powerful in its own right.
So, what are your core values? Are you always pushing to be the high-energy, go-getter, or can you appreciate the quieter moments too? Start by recognizing both sides of yourself, because trust me, trying to always be “on” is exhausting. Instead, value the ebb as much as the flow.
Aligning Actions with Values (And Embracing Both Sides)
Once I stopped pretending to be in high-energy mode all the time, I started aligning my actions with my real values. If I was feeling low-energy, instead of retreating, I’d connect with the moment—both with myself and others. It turns out that being present and grounded when your energy is low can be just as impactful as those high-energy, “let’s go get ‘em” moments. In fact, it can be even more transformational. Vulnerability and authenticity create connection, and in coaching (or life), that’s priceless.
The Power of Acceptance (Yes, Even on Tired Days)
The moment I embraced the low-energy side of myself, I realized it wasn’t something to fight—it was something to appreciate. There’s beauty in balance. Instead of forcing myself to be “on” all the time, I now recognize when it’s time to go internal, recharge, and be creative. More importantly, I learned that sharing this side with others—being more present, vulnerable, and intimate—can lead to deeper connections and greater transformation. It’s not always about being the most energetic person in the room. Sometimes it’s about being the most authentic.
And here’s the kicker: profound growth often happens when we perceive we’re in the valley. It’s when we’re down in those moments of stillness, reflection, and low energy that we’re most open to learning. When we’re at the peak? It can be such a blur that we hardly notice the view! So, if you feel like you’re in a dip, remember, that’s where the magic often begins.
Using Values as a Resource for Goals (High or Low Energy)
Your values can guide you, whether you’re in high-energy, selling-everything-in-sight mode or in low-energy, quietly-present mode. Learning to appreciate both sides of yourself means that you can use each state as a resource. High energy may help you drive forward, but low energy can allow you to pause, reflect, and get creative. Both are essential, and both offer you the chance to get what you want—just in different ways.
Conclusion
So here’s what I’ve learned: Your heart doesn’t care if you’re feeling like a rockstar or if you’re just looking for the nearest couch to nap on. It’s all about balance. When you understand and appreciate your values, high energy and low energy become two sides of the same coin—both equally important, both equally transformational.
Next time you’re feeling low-energy, don’t retreat. Instead, connect with yourself and others on a deeper level. Appreciate the internal experience, and remember: sometimes, slowing down opens up opportunities for real growth. After all, we’re human, not machines. Your heart is there to guide you—whether you’re soaring or simply grounding yourself for the next takeoff.
So, embrace both sides, laugh at yourself a little, and trust that your values, when appreciated and aligned, will guide you to everything you want in life.